"Negro blood is sure powerful because just one drop of black blood makes a colored man. One drop? Black is powerful." |
| ~ Langston Hughes |
"To define racism only through extreme groups and their extreme acts is akin to defining weather only through hurricanes. Hurricanes are certainly a type of weather pattern - a harsh and brutal type - but so too are mild rainfalls, light breezes, and sunny days. Likewise, racism is much broader than violence and epithets. It also comes in quieter, everyday-ordinary forms." |
| ~ Matthew Desmond and Mustafa Emirbayer in What is Racial Domination? |
i have to say that i am quite tired of movies that only perpetuate stereotypes and regulate the black woman to the role of a mammy and continually show the white saviors (see “the blind side”, “amistad” and “a time to kill”). hollywood, i am ashamed. you can do better.
"We’ve lost an understanding of what racism means in this country. We’ve forgotten that it’s race hate combined with power. A white person being harassed in a black neighborhood is not experiencing racism—that person can call the police and get a response. My students refer to anything other than whatever they think of as Martin Luther King’s dream as racism. Like with so many other words, conservatives have won the rhetorical war. We need to define racism as what it actually is and reclaim the rhetorical ground on moving toward real equality." |
| ~ Alterdestiny: The New Racism |
first and foremost, thanks for the blog love! i am indeed black, so i can relate to a lot of your feelings.
secondly, i wish you weren’t anonymous, so i could give you a more direct answer but i’ll try to help you out as best i can. if you send me a message through your tumblr name, i would be happy to advise you privately.
i’ve come to realize (and it’s been a long and painful journey to come to this conclusion) that some people are not going to like you because of your race, because of all the stereotypes they associate with it despite the fact that they may be able to recognize your beauty.
you just need to hold your head up high and realize it will get better and that even though you probably do want the guys that will stupidly reject you solely based on what your race and what they think you are, you should try to avoid them because their biased beliefs only mean that they aren’t good enough for you. (in all honesty, i should probably follow my own advice a bit more and not fall for the white guys that will never return my feelings)
just make sure that people know that you are open to interracial relationships and that you keep showing your inner and outer beauty. there are indeed some white guys that are open-minded and don’t care about race, so don’t give up on all of them because of some bad experiences or campus hearsay. open your mind to all races including your own and eventually a good guy will come along eventually, i promise.
this goes out to all women of color everywhere.